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When One Partner Wants to Leave and the Other Wants to Stay May 23, 2018 . 6 Comments
What do you to when one person wants to leave their marriage and the other person wants to keep working on it? The would-be marriage leaver may have limited motivation to work on the relationship. ... Read More
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5 Ways to Avoid a New Year’s Resolution Hangover January 4, 2017 . 7 Comments
New Year’s Eve is a special time for many people, full of promise, hope, and reflection. The week after, however, can be disproportionately crushing, especially for people who are already ... Read More
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Between Therapy Sessions: When You Can’t Seem to Do the Work August 16, 2016 . 7 Comments
Change is hard. We resist it, maintaining our longstanding behaviors and belief systems, because familiar is comfortable. We typically seek psychotherapy when our old ways lead to problems ... Read More
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Is There Something Wrong with Being a ‘Commitment-Phobe’? December 4, 2015 . 7 Comments
Thank you for sharing so much of yourself here. You ask what I think your problem is, and I find myself wondering what you think the problem is or if you even think there is a problem. Find ... Read More
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What If I Want My Long-Distance Relationship to Stay that Way? May 2, 2014 . 6 Comments
Thank you for your message and for having the courage to reach out. I want to take some time to address your question and concerns about the situation with your girlfriend and hopefully ... Read More
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Marriage Seems Scary and Risky. What If It’s Not for Me? August 2, 2013 . 13 Comments
It is hard to be fully invested in a relationship if you’re already thinking about the messy ending. You are right about the statistics—many marriages do end. There are no guarantees. ... Read More
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What to Do If Your Partner Doesn’t Want to Get Married June 28, 2013 . 306 Comments
The pages of women’s magazines are filled with articles offering methods for encouraging men to propose marriage, and entire websites are dedicated to increasing a person’s ... Read More
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Long-Distance Love: Can It Really Work? June 28, 2013 . 4 Comments
Relationships require maintenance, effort, and work by both partners. Careers and families can mean even more attention has to be devoted to the relationship. But when couples choose to ... Read More
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Cohabitation Nation: Alternative or Prelude to Marriage? May 31, 2013 . 4 Comments
Cohabitating is becoming more popular with every generation. For some people, the idea of living together is a natural step on the journey to marriage. But for others, cohabitation just ... Read More
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Commitment: We Have So Much to Learn December 13, 2012 . 4 Comments
It’s that time of year again. Time to make our New Year’s resolutions. But how can we make true New Year’s resolutions when we know so little about commitment? We may think we know ... Read More
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Commitment Level of Newlyweds Predicts Marital Persistence November 30, 2011 . 3 Comments
Just as death is ultimately always the result of a heart that stops beating, the death of a marriage is always the result of marital dissatisfaction. The unhappiness could be caused by ... Read More