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How Couples Therapy Can Help Heal Childhood Wounds November 18, 2014 . 14 Comments
Do you want to build a case about how your partner is wrong and defective or do you want to repair the relationship? So many people come to my office wanting to convince me how wrong and/or ... Read More
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The Stages of a Relationship (and the Purposes They Serve) October 15, 2014 . 10 Comments
Many people believe that if you meet the right person and fall in love, you are meant to be with this person. That there won’t be anything you will ever want to change about them. That ... Read More
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How Can I Get My Partner to Change? September 4, 2014 . 9 Comments
When I ask my partner to change a behavior or do something differently, am I asking them to change who they are? This is a question I frequently get from people in couples counseling. Who ... Read More
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Who Do You Want to Be With? Why Having a Vision Matters July 8, 2014 . 12 Comments
Most of us just flow along through life without a clear vision of what we want in our future. At least that’s what I did for many years. I drifted in and out of relationships just because ... Read More
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Couples Communication: 3 Steps to Connection June 11, 2014 . 15 Comments
Do you listen? Do you really hear and understand the meaning of what your partner is telling you? Are you curious? Do you practice loving-kindness? Recently I asked a man if he thought ... Read More
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Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Techniques with Imago and Family Therapy August 24, 2011 . 6 Comments
I am not formally trained in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). My knowledge of it comes from texts, watching trained practitioners do it, and gradually incorporating it into my practice. ... Read More
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Keep Passion Alive by Listening May 25, 2010 . 20 Comments
For those of you in a relationship, think back to the time when you first saw your partner. You see them across the room, and something inside you says, “They are the one.” ... Read More